Wednesday, July 28, 2010

Holy update!!

Well it has been awhile since our last visit. Lucas has kept us pretty busy. He is crawling now, wants to stand up, and next walking. He is absolutely adorable we do not remember life without him. We recently took a trip to France to have him baptized and visit family. Lucas was all smiles the entire trip and never fussed one time. A complete dream baby.

so much of a dream we are EXPECTING OUR SECOND BABY IN FEBRUARY !!!! Can you believe it? 12 weeks along already!!

Here is a look at lucas the past couple of months

Lucas when he just started sitting up, he is still folded a little! --- 5 months old
Papa BG helping Lucas with his sweet tooth !! It's ok... it's Nutella

first day of school ( Roper Learning Center)... 5 months old

Measuring Lucas at 6 months!! what a big boy!!

In France, during the baptism , giving the thumbs up!! ( 8 months)

Thursday, April 1, 2010

Lucas Rolling over the first time.. at 2 months old!

Most of you have seen this, but for documenting purposes!! Here is Lucas Rolling over the first time from Belly to Back

Wednesday, January 20, 2010

MONSTER baby!!

It has been 4 months since we last spoke, and lots has happened since. I still Love, Love, LOVE being a mother.. everyday is different and amazing. Life has more meaning everyday!

I will give a little run down on the past 4 months

Lucas at Week 6: We traveled to Tarboro as our 1st trip together away from home. I want you to picture a Prius with a 100lb golden retriever, baby, Francois, me, 2 large strollers, and lots of Clothes!! A 5 hour trip was a success ! And Lucas had his first Photo Shoot !! Super Model!!

Week 7: we moved into our new home

Week 8: we traveled to Asheville

Week 9: we hosted Moe

Week 10: Christmas

Week 11: New Years

Week 12: trip to Tarboro with Tracy

Week 13: Francois' parents back for almost 2months

At this point we will go by month, because i actually drafted this post 3 months ago...

Francois' parents were here and It was AMAZING... the helped scrap popcorn off the ceiling and painted the entire HOUSE!!! Crazy.. We love our house and find new things that make us fall in love with it every day.

Mamisa ( Francois' Mom) watched Lucas and dressed him in many outfits.. she also taught him to sit-up and SPOILED our little man with songs, games, and lots of kisses!!

After Francois' parents left we had to kind of find our rhythm again.. I was back to work and now we had to find our very first babysitter!! Lucky for us... we only need a babysitter for 4 hours a WEEK!! I now work Saturday and Sunday and 1 day during the week i work from 3pm-11pm.. so it's PERFECT because Lucas has one of us ALL THE TIME!!

Our babysitter is AMAZING, she is a College of Charleston Graduate in Studio Art that wants to be a Yoga instructor ... and she LOOOVES LUCAS!!

Lucas has also met his new cousins Jane and Sylvie and they are SOO tiny compared to Lucas... and they are only a month apart ! but they were a month early, so we will give them that. :) They are so very precious and i love everything about them... except that they are SOO far away!

Fast forward to NOW, and Lucas is 5 months and some change. He is healthy, smiling, laughing, sweet, found his toes, cries very little, and is eating solid foods now.. He has discovered his hands and he moves them very slow and purposefully. I love to watch him move and discover. I love spending everyday with him and just watching him. His personality shines through more and more and I love him more and more.

Francois has the joy of having boy time on the weekends. They go for runs and play games around the house. Francois prefers to strap Lucas in the Baby Bjorn and walk him around. He sings French songs and speaks French to him the entire day. The two boys look so cute together!!

AND NOW, Lucas can put all that French to use, because we three are going to the French Rivera in July!!! Lucas has his Passport and everything!!! Very exciting!!

Enough for now, I will post pictures Next

Saturday, November 21, 2009

Life as a MOM

For 5 weeks I have been a MOM!!! I cannot believe it!

5 weeks of loving this perfect little creature , and no matter how tired I am in the middle of the night.. or during the day.. he is still perfect and beautiful.

What have I learned as mother?
  1. Be quick with changing a diaper! I have been shot countless times and if you cannot be quick with the diaper change, at least have something you can cover that area with .. QUICK
  2. Don't change diapers on your bed!!! refer to #1 for reasoning :)
  3. Make sure to check your outfit before meeting new people, new mom's at this point do not have full rights to their body yet.. for example, I had a shirt issue after hearing a crying baby ....
  4. Don't feel guilty for the choices you make with your child! Francois and I made the choice to buy an emergency pacifier .. it is like an amazing drug for babies and makes life so much easier in the bewitching hours of 5-9pm!! Lucky for us, he only likes the pacifier at bedtime... and won't take it all the time. I am sure we will learn more about this as time goes on!
  5. Have plenty of diapers and WIPES!!! It takes a little time to get the hang of changing diapers!!
  6. Take a shower when you can!! You don't know when you will have another chance to take one!
  7. Embrace HELP! When you are offered the chance to go do something that allows your body to feel normal ( for me that is working out) TAKE IT!!
  8. DON'T STAY IN THE HOUSE !!!!! GET OUT!! There is a world that exist outside, and the baby will sleep better!!
  9. It's OK to get frustrated and cry! Hormones are spilling out of your ears and doing something for the first time every 5 minutes can be challenging ... but it gets easier every time
  10. Enjoy every minute of it! I have this vision one day I will wake up and this tiny person will be 18 and moving far away ... so i hold him and love him every second, because one day no matter how much I try .. this little boy will not let me kiss him, hug him, and hold him like I can today. Every time I hold Lucas, I say to myself, " I enjoy this moment and wish it would last forever" That way I live in that moment a little longer and take it with me!
For 5 weeks, this little, perfect man has been loved, fed ( he is now 12 lbs WOW), and entertained ( I never knew i had so many different character voices .. and that the only song i can think to sing on the spot is the Little Mermaid song " I want to be where the people are... I want to see... want to see them dancing ... flipping your fins you don't get to far.... " )
Lucas has been such a great baby, Francois and I have seen , what we think is his first smile!! It simply melts your heart!!

A quick summary of the last 5 weeks

We have been visited by lots of great people!!
  • My parents came for the birth and brought lots of love and SOUP! Later that week they visited again with Ian and it was Great to have the entire family together during this amazing time in our life. That is one thing I know I can count on... my family!!
  • My brother came all the way from Seattle, truly a fantastic gift that i will never forget. With twins on the way in the next week or so... Ian and I have been talking lots about parent stuff... our lives have truly changed and will continue to do so... and I am so glad to go through this together!!
  • Francois sister stayed until a couple of days after the baby arrived, however she stayed in touch through SKYPE and remained a big help even 3000+ miles away! She is the best!!!!
  • Francois MOM and DAD : Arrived the same day Ian left ( about 2 weeks after the birth) and they just left this past Tuesday.. I think they were here 2 weeks. They HELPED BIG TIME. I was able to sleep more, exercise and get out of the house. Francois' mom was a school teacher for many years and is AMAZING with children. they both sang lots of cute French songs and spoiled Lucas with lots of kisses and cuddle time.
  • Kendra: helped with food and cleaning the weekend home from the hospital !! It was also great to have our old roommate back!!
  • People from work have checked on me and made sure that I was doing well, and a couple of them have gone on walks with Lucas and me!! Got me out of the house!!
  • Stacy and Molly: helped teach me the breast feeding ways. They were my Mom's on call when i had questions.. and they came all the way to Charleston to help feed me and teach me how to feed Lucas.. ( I had lots of Breast feeding questions.. it's not easy!)
  • Tracy: continues to help with advice and calming techniques when i think maybe something isn't right, or i am not confident in what i am doing. She helps me feel normal.
  • Francois!!! He reestablishes my sanity. He is always willing and ready to help and take charge with Lucas in the middle of the night. It's hard because with breast feeding... I am really the only one that can feed him... He changes his diapers and watches over him so i can get rest. It really takes teamwork ... and it takes a little time trying to figure a schedule out for you and the baby.

IN ALL, life has been great. I love being a mom and i would not trade it for anything in the world. I can't wait to do it again!!! ( but we will wait a little until Lucas is settled. :)

Thursday, November 5, 2009

4...3.....2....1... BLAST OFF

Well, who would have thought the count down would be perfectly accurate. Our baby French Fry was born on October 22nd at 3:54 pm on his due date. Exactly 40 weeks old, weighing in at 8lbs 12 oz and measuring 21 3/4 inches long!! What a Big Boy!

How did it happen?

( signal the dream sequence .... picture gets blurry and the screen fades to the past...... )

As you know Francois' sister Caroline was here, and her days were numbered. She was due to fly out of the country back to her abode on Saturday October 24th ( 2 DAYS AFTER MY DUE DATE) the stress!!!

Most people know that first time moms do not deliver on or before the due date. Well, I think she planned it perfect... she shopped that baby right out of me.. I never knew the stamina it took to shop like Caroline Mazal, I thought my mom was bad. Caroline's shopping is to my running...

Well, as you also know, Caroline ( or as i like to call her, Mary Poppins) had been doing acupuncture on me to help baby Lucas arrive in the correct position, comfortably, and healthy. Her last session of acupuncture was on Tuesday, I believe. She prefaced the session with , " are you ready to have a baby tomorrow?" And all i could think was.... " ........"

( nothing, a space of fear and excitement crossed me, like never before).

Who actually can answer "yes" to a question like that. All I could think of was, " NOOO" but what came out of my mouth was " I think so" My body was torn between 2 worlds. A world I have known for 27 years and a world that is unknown to me. I know that I am ready for something... Motherhood... the unknown... not sure about that yet..

WELL, I digress. Long story short.. The session was a success for a healthy delivery, however it did not bring Lucas here sooner. Let me tell you of the day that Lucas arrived...

October 23rd:
All day I had felt a little excitement from baby French Fry. I felt him kicking!! and moving!! Usually he has his times during the day when he moves and sleeps. Not today. He had places to go and people to see. Caroline, Francois, and I went shopping a little, and then after... I went for a run. YES! a RUN. A holy run, one I will remember forever.

The run felt as if I had started at mile 18-26 in an ultramarathon. Hurting in places with unknown reason or origin... just hurting. But I like to categorize it as a HURTS SO GOOD FEELING. What i mean by that is... I know I am pushing my body and I like it... I had a tight belly and a determination unwilling for negotiation. I ran every step of this run.... feeling charged with emotions and mentally saying " I will have this baby today..." over and over. Not that I hated the pregnancy or wanted him out so bad that I would risk my life for it.. I just wanted his Godmother to be here for the event and I wanted to meet this little man.

As the run came to an end, I was slightly grieving the finish, yet fueling my engine for post baby season and all the runs that I will have in the future ( sick obsession... I know..) As I neared the house, not even breaking a sweat, yet feeling a little damp in " another place" ... oh let's just say it.. " I FELT LIKE I PEED ON MYSELF"

Was it Pee or was it my "bag of waters" ( I love that term... sounds gross and old). Well. I arrived home and told Caroline, " I peed on myself" she smiled and knew... his time was nearing.

I showered and the " fluid leak" had corked itself... and made me question... " did I pee on my stupid pregnant self... hmmmm" Well. Francois wanted to show Caroline the famous Crab Shack in Folly Beach for dinner.. 45 min away from home.. For all those not knowing... there is a crab shack probably 10 min away as well.. OH FRANCOIS!!

Caroline, Francois and I ordered.
I ordered Shrimp and Grits... for some odd reason.. I have never ordered this before!! and Caroline had Giant Crab Claws and Francois.. a ridiculous amount of fish and chips. Well.. Before I could get a hush puppy in my mouth... BAMMM. My eyes widen and ( I am thinking , I did it again). hurry to the bathroom, in what looks like a penguin gate.. and to my dismay.. a little fluid... not easy to discern ... at this point my bladder and baby are hanging out so much... that i could swallow spit and think that I downed a gallon of Ice Tea.

Back to the table I travel, Caroline keeping a watchful eye on her apprehensive sister-in-law. Probably prepping Francois, in between bathroom visits. When I arrive, The food has settled on the table, and I am wondering, why I ordered Shrimp and Grits again?? Oh, well. I go for my first bite, big eyes follow... OK, this time... It has to be Fluid... I cannot believe that I am incontinent. YEP.. go to the bathroom and it looks as if I have sat in a Puddle of water.

Caroline, at this point is cracking her crab claws and throwing them meat full into the trash bucket.... not focusing... only mentally prepping herself to FINALLY be an AUNT!!! The excitement.. She held her cool as did Francois... an unsettling cool for a pregnant lady... WHO JUST BROKE HER WATER ... HELLLO... why are we not running toward the fire exit.. waving flags... where is the wheelchair, ambulance... ( my mind settles... ) I finish my shrimp n' grits and CHECK PLEASE, I want to yell. Mentally noting this is my LAST MEAL.. not to be enjoyed or savored.. but cherished and remembered as the place where I did NOOOT PEE on myself :)

We traveled home, still no huge reaction from Francois or Caroline, which is a little unsettling to a hormone engorged pregnant lady.. Finally, I catch Francois by himself and say,
" you know that we are going to have a baby in less than 24 hours.. right... "
he reassures me, " I know" ..
" Just checking", I say... still wondering why no commotion.. We settle in at home. Caroline goes and checks to see if my water has broken, we decide that it is presumable so.. but lets wait to see if any more fluid is loss before we call. ( Usually in the United states we say that after your water breaks, the doctors usually likes to deliver within 24 hours.... mostly to decrease infection rates. ) HOWEVER, my idea of fun is not sitting in a hospital waiting for magic to happen, bed bound.

SOO, Caroline suggested a nap, great suggestion looking back, except I was too EXCITED TO NAP. That's OK, we put on the movie The Pelican Brief, and nap time set in.

After the movie, I called the doctor.. and yes they wanted me to come in and have me checked and we would see from there. We slowly prepared our things, left Cooper .. I made some phone calls... to the parents and Tracy... not to worry.. going into the hospital.. leave in the morning.. its going to be a LOOONG night.

----------------------------Break---------Allow yourself a water break-- snack--- :)

Ok, so we arrive at the ER at 12:01 am October 22, Lucas' Due date. He is exactly 40 weeks.
WE check in, go to our giant room, YEAH! and the fun begins. I am checked, and tested for amniotic fluid leak ( my " bag of waters") The test actually came back negative... so they did an ultrasound and there was very little fluid in there.. so... since I am term, and my water appears to have leaked out... I AM STAYING.

( side note: I went to the bathroom after this whole fun check thing and water exploded at my feet.... GLORIOUS.. baby Lucas wanted a crowd)

OK so we are DOING THIS...
1. IV was started ( blood everywhere, because at this point you could hit my veins with a dart across the room)
2. Antibiotics given
3. Evil Pitocin started ( goal: to have contractions 2 min apart to help ripen the cervix to change from the 1 cm it was at to 10 cm. OUCH) remembering, i have not had contractions YET...... AT ALL

It is now 3:00am and I have 8,000 knives slicing into my back at 2 ish minute intervals and no matter what position I put myself in, no matter what planet I mentally travel to, and no matter what breathing pattern I attempt, the evil axe murdering Pitocin is slicing my back in millions of pieces.

I want to go natural, bite on a leather strap and go with it.. but I see the future ahead of me.. and knowing that this is not a short process.. I do not see myself even having the energy to push when it came time, I would be tooooo exhausted. SO, I started with Nubian. a medication that feels like someone slapped you in the face with 8 glasses of wine, not a bad feeling, but silly when you go from normal to drunk in front of your family...

Anyway, at this point it was 6:00am and Epidural was offered to me multiple times, and I cracked, gave in, melted and said, "I guess I will have an epidural.. no rush.. when the chance is available". by 7:00am the epidural was in.. and my legs weighed a ton!!! and life was GREAT!!!
( this is the time where the camera speeds through time and people move in and out... changes made in my body and BAM... its 2:45 pm)

I am going through transition stage, where my body is shaking ... Francois is at the head of the bed talking me through the contractions, Tracy is rubbing my back and trying to calm my shaking... time goes on and it is time to push... The strangest thing is pushing against a numb surface.... it totaled 45 minutes of pushing and at 3:54... Lucas filled his lungs with air and let out his first roar. Our Son!

Friday, October 16, 2009

5 days left until D DAy.. or any day now

WE ARE HERE.... waiting for baby french fry to make his debut!!!

Caroline, Francois' sister, has arrived and she is working her midwifery French magic!! I have had acupuncture to help relax my pelvic bones, and tonight i will have acupuncture to excite the baby ... and tell him it is OK to go out the door, towards the light... and ARRIVE!!

I have had such an amazing pregnancy... gained 26 lbs total, no swelling, no pain, I was able to do regular yoga the entire time, walk 5 miles on my day off from work, work up until the end, and as for the baby... he has given us just pure entertainment with his evening dancing.

Francois, at this moment, is getting many tips from his big sister about babies and taking care of his son. It is so hard to believe that we will be parents. We are so excited and we cannot wait to share all the stories with all of you!!

Next time you hear from us... it will be from the 3 of us..
Wish us LUCK!!

Tuesday, September 22, 2009

4 weeks to go

Ok, so I have had the WORST dreams ever and a few hormonal breakdowns... Mostly nervous about this little French Fry not being in my belly and having to take care of him. He is moving a lot in the lower part of my abdomen and sometimes it stops me in mid... whatever I am doing... like someone just poked me in gut...

I think I have a slight waddling gate and I am pretty sure that I might have 2 shirts that fit, appropriately. I have not had a bad pregnancy AT ALL, I have been comfortable, no nausea, plenty of energy... but the DREAMS are RIDICULOUS!!! Francois' sister says that I am dreaming a lot because I am getting ready to understand every aspect of my baby and I have no more barriers to protect myself from feelings. I can imagine that I suppress plenty ... and my dreams are working overtime to deal with all my fears, worries, and excitement. She also says the more I dream the easier it will be when the baby is born. And this is the reason why mothers are the best people to understand the non spoken characteristics of their baby. I LOVE FRENCH HEALTH EXPLANATIONS....

So, this week. My parents came into town on their 32 year anniversary... to spend a little time with their Fat daughter and eager son-n-law before they are officially "Gamie and Gampe" ( by the way.... they hate those names!!!) During this time we went shopping for my brother's twin girls on the way and a little shopping for baby French Fry.

On Friday, Francois and I headed to Kendra's house in Greenville for our second shower. We were able to see some old friends... Molly and Stacey from nursing school ( my two adopted moms that helped me through pediatrics and labor and delivery in school)

Tracy, Peyton, and stinky pants baby Aiden; Kendra, Beth, and Kim from work at the life center; Ehrin- my best friend from college; and The Hostesses .... Moe and his man Greg. I loved having all my friends together to celebrate the soon to be birth of baby French Fry...

We played some fun games, ate some FABULOUS food, and opened some fantastic gifts!! And I even had a diaper cake...

The infamous Diaper cake, made by Stacey and Molly.... great job LADIES!

Playing baby shower games... Tracy is reading the Birth Store of Baby French Fry... it was a Mad Libs version where people randomly pick nouns, verbs, etc to fit into a story... it was funny!

( opening presents and enjoying every moment)

Ehrin, me, Stacey, and Molly.... All the Nurses together!!

Cassie and Champagne with a floating raspberry... so classy MOE!!

Moe had a great menu planed for the shower! He picked special cheeses and prepared French styled food for Francois. He even ordered Blue Hydrangeas to decorate!

Everyone that came to Baby Shower!!